Yesterday a debate “raged” amongst some of the videogames journalists that I tend to interact with through Twitter. The issue was not games themselves, but rather how male journalists in the field sometimes feel that they should not be completely truthful with potential girlfriends on the subject of what they do for a living.
It seemed to evolve from a blog post done by OXM lovely Mike Channell and was soon followed by Strategy Informer’s very own Joe Robinson. Mike has sadly had several negative experiences (i.e. not getting anywhere) when he has admitted that he writes about games, however he accepts that as the popularity of games increases amongst the wider, general population, he’ll find that the truth won’t be so bad. Joe didn’t have any specific situations to recall, but generally felt unable to talk about what he does when entering into conversation with the opposite sex.
Now, I’m not necessarily a dating or relationship expert, so I decided to ask the lady in the know, Tiny Temper, what she thought about this situation:
“How bizarre! That’s gotta be one of the most coveted jobs as well. […] They’ve just gotta be brave and explain that by playing games, they’re fulfilling one of their basic male instincts – shooting, protecting and competing. That’s why so many boys/men are into the COD type games. It just proves they’re all man and operating on pure instinct and testosterone 🙂 It’s a shame really, because the whole X Box joke scenario is just a cultural ‘joke’. Nobody means anything offensive by it – it’s a way of affectionate communication between the sexes, in the same way boys will say, ‘Get in the kitchen, wench and make me a sandwich!’ Nobody actually believes it. It’s a way of saying, ‘Me, girl. You, boy!’ A teasing awareness of gender differences. Your guys should be proud to get paid for doing something they love – not many people can say that about their work.”
So there you have it. If, even after explaining what you do, the woman you’re talking to still doesn’t think you’re worth giving the time of day to, well neither is she.
And Lewis, this also applies to people in general if they look at what you do in disdain: